Out of the mouths of babes

IMG 2548 225x300 Out of the mouths of babesAs parents, we’re expected to have most of the answers. We’re supposed to be the ones imparting wisdom on our offspring. But I can tell you, on more than one occasion, it’s been the other way around.

Saturday was one of those cases. My daughter and I ran a 5k trail race together. These are always some of my favorite moments with her…I just love to watch her run, love to chat with her out there, love to share laughs with her as we go along.

This being a trail race, she took two falls, the second being kind of hard. She was battered and bruised, but brushed off and continued on her way, me marveling at her toughness as she cried while  she ran. When we were all finished, she’d placed first in the 12-and-unders and I couldn’t have been prouder.

Later at home, I told her she had done a great job. Her response? “Of course I did.” It made me laugh (and realize maybe we need a little lesson in humility) and I told her that I wished I had her confidence. I asked her where it came from and she told me it was easy. “Just focus on the good stuff and don’t think about the bad.”

Huh. Simple, isn’t it? Kids have the gift of not over thinking things. Would that I could approach self-confidence the way she does. But next time I toe the line, I am going to try hard to listen to her advice and focus on the good, not the bad. I think it can go a long way.

How’s your race-day confidence? Ever have a child teach you the lesson?


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  1. I love her confidence. Such wise words from such a young person.
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  2. That is so sweet! Congrats to her for winning AND for being able to pick herself up after a rough fall. I need to seriously start focusing on my race day mental toughness. As soon as I think I might not do as good as I had hoped, I tell myself that is OK and then it becomes OK. I need to not let myself get away with that attitude, sometimes.
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  3. What a sweet little girl you have. She is so right too. I find that I lack confidence before the race begins but then I find my confidence while running. I think I always become a better version of myself while running.

  4. Oh, to be young and have that kind of confidence again!!
    Great job for her!!
    And, what a proud mom moment!!
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  5. That’s awesome :) My son was walking around telling everyone he was “awesome” this weekend – every. single. person who asked what kind of runner he was. I should take a slight note (don’t want to go overboard and be delirious…)
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  6. Congrats to your daughter on winning her AG. That is awesome, trail runs are not easy. I love her words of wisdom too. Definitely something I needed to hear now that I am exactly two weeks out from my marathon. I might have to repeat her words everyday until race day.
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  7. I remember during a time when I was in a dark funk and Andrew looked up at me (he was 2-3) and said, “Mom? You need to learn that having fun is fun1″ He was so right!
    Congrats to your daughter for placing!! That’s awesome!
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  8. Oh I love these words of wisdom. So true. I tried to keep similar words in my head yesterday – focus on the good. Those kids really are full of amazing insights. Congrats to your daughter on a great race!!
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  9. Well said. I am glad that she has that all figured out! I ran my first race when I was about her age and I hated it!! She is a much better sport than I was!
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  10. That is so awesome that your daughter got up and carried on even after a hard tumble (and her “just focus on the good stuff” quote is pretty clutch too). Kudos to your daughter!
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  11. Love running with my kids (even when they don’t)
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  12. Duh! Kids are way smarter than adults – just don’t tell them that! ;) Congrats to your daughter on a great race!
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  13. Thanks for sharing your daughter’s race experience & wisdom! My oldest has a 1-mile kid’s run tomorrow & she’s been talking about it for days. Can’t wait to watch her cross the finish line!
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  14. This response is on another topic you wrote about. Throw away clothes. I have a bag but seem to keep coming home with the things I am going to leave on the side of a race. Yesterday I over dressed and had on a top I didn’t need. At first I tied it around my waist but quickly hated that and actually left it for someone to find I hope. It is amazing how hard it is to get rid of something we have already decided we don’t want any more! But I did it this time.
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  15. nothing to add as you know I SO ADORE THIS.
    And pray she, and my girl, never shed their confidence.
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  16. Priceless! I learned a similar lesson from my son about running in inclement weather. His teams play in all weather unless there is lightening. “You’re not going to melt, Mom!”
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  17. Congrats to the little one, how adorable?! Kids are so tough – us adults have all of the fear and apprehension and should learn a ton more from them! And think back to when we were more brave as kids!
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  18. What a tough cookie you’re raising! My kiddos have taught me many lessons. I love that they’re confident and fearless. I love that they don’t know there’s anything to fear yet.
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  19. Brilliant and Adorable! Good job momma Zippy!
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  20. I think your daughter knew I needed to read this post this morning. Focus on the good; don’t think about the bad. So applicable to my DNF from yesterday. LOTS of good things before I had to stop. Thank you for this.
    And a huge congrats to your sweet superstar daughter – clearly, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree =)
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  21. To have a confident daughter shows you are doing something right, mama! I wouldn’t worry about humility yet… I think it will come with the awkward teen years. :) Congrats to her!! She looks so proud, and placing first is so impressive!
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  22. Awww I love this! Kids are great!

  23. I LOVE it!! Yes kids have the best perspective! I tend to psych myself out at the starting line. This past weekend I ran a race pushing my girls…Em called out as we started off, “Mom I just know we are going to win this one!!” I told her we won the stroller division!
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  24. Love, love, love it! May she never loose that confidence – and congrats to her on her AG!
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  25. The key is to NOT let her lose that!! Awesome mindset, she’s amazing :)
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  26. That is awesome and beautiful wisdom coming from someone so young. May she always be so confident! I’m sure that AG victory will go far in bolstering that confidence as well!
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  27. That’s precious. I hope I don’t need it, but could you have your daughter on skype-stand-by in case I need a little confidence booster before my marathon Sunday??

    Just kidding. Sort of :)
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  28. My race day confidence is a roller coaster… really low in the morning when I get up and get moving around…but when I get to the start line…the adrenaline get’s me going… I love the emotions of the start line. I wish I could channel that the entire time.

    Congrats to your little one, she did awesome and I love her perspective!
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  29. THANK YOU for this post. I have a big marathon this weekend and am way more nervous than usual. Her words are just what I needed to hear. If she remembers me, give her a hug for me!!! :)
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  30. Love this! Kids really know how to live life :)
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  31. So cute, and so honest. Congratulations to your daughter, and kudos to you for being an inspiring mom!
    I can’t believe she continued running although she was crying; she’s a tough cookie!
    I hit the trails this weekend in the mountains and fell really hard, somersaulting on the way down. Thankfully I wasn’t hurt. You have to be careful on those trails!!

  32. oh the heart and mind of a kid. We need to rekindle our childlike confidence, yes! smart daughter you got there
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  33. Squeeeee!!! Your daughter is so precious. I’m still in trauma over the time(s) that my kid called me fat. Outta the mouths of babes. O_O
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  34. My race day confidence could be a lot better. I find I compare myself to everyone else and assume I am not as well-trained/fast as they are and set my goals probably lower than I should. I need to change that! What a smart girl you have :)
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  35. Your daughter is incredibly wise.
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  36. Absolutely love it!
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  37. So true about the kids. Congrats to your daughter, what a trooper (and so cute).
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  38. What an amazing, strong, beautiful daughter you have! Hmm… wonder where she gets it from? ;) You are such a wonderful role model!

    Sometimes I feel like I learn more from my kids than they do from me! Lol!
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  39. Wow, what wise words! My race confidence is a bit shaken right now. I have another marathon in 3 weeks so I’m going to take your daughter’s advice and just focus on the good stuff.
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  40. Love it! I need to work on my race confidence in a big way. I am taking this to heart!
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  41. Awww, love this post! Kids are wise, sometimes we would do right to use their logic :) Many congrats to your little sweetie on this race!
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  42. Ay! I wish I’d read her words of wisdom before the Vancouver half! My race confidence is definitely in the toilet right now, but I’m hoping that after a week of rest, licking wounds, and getting back to it this summer I can redeem myself this fall.
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  43. You’ve got a great girl, there! She is so tough and brave!
    That is some great advice, and some that I should definitely heed!
    Love this!
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  44. kids are fabulous and yours sound extra wonderful but make no mistake she’s feeding off your vibes which are allowing her to be the person she is!

    great job mama!
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  45. So true and some great wisdom. Just remember, she learned it from somewhere… mom :-)
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  46. you obviously have done a marvelous job raising her! Bravo!
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  47. Awe, so sweet. I love that! My kids have taught me so many things, some good, some not so much. Like I could have made it my whole life not knowing that G.I. Joe’s will break a salad spinner and that Elmo does not fit down the toilet ;-)
    My confidence on race day and during races is horrid. I doubt everything and never trust my abilities. I need a little bit of your daughters confidence.
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